I should have been celebrating, or better still doing some promotion. But I’ve done nothing since publication on March 23. I’ve barely opened the pages.
Why? I’ve written a guest blog post for the website This Dad Can to explain.
Here’s a sample of the text:
Just as the book was due to be published, my own dad was taken seriously ill. He has spent a long period in hospital and, while now stabilised, has been diagnosed with a major dementia.
I now carry around with me every day the knowledge that he will never get better — only decline cognitively. The irony is not lost on me that, while I was busy talking to men about why dads matter, my own father was slowly fading away.
But I’ve also got a responsibility to the ten men featured in the book to let their stories be heard. They shared their stories with me and wanted a wider audience to learn from their experiences.
So the promotion starts. I’m arranging a book launch in Chester for Thursday, May 17 — sign up here.
And, as we move towards the 80th anniversary of Father’s Day, I’m going to celebrate why we all, myself included, should appreciate the important role our fathers and grandfathers play.
A stressful job and a male-dominated culture of macho behaviour left him on the verge of a complete breakdown.
But Paul found strength in his role as a father and now works with men to champion issues around mental health, suicide and taking back control.
I recently interviewed Paul [pictured above] for Inside Fatherhood, my forthcoming book to be published by BRF in 2018.
Here’s a preview of his moving story:
“I tried to process why he hadn’t said anything to me. I couldn’t cope with the grief but, when I sent to see the welfare officer, they told me to ‘pull myself together’. I couldn’t admit I had a mental health problem to my employer. I didn’t even know that I might have one. I knew the stigma attached to it. In that kind of working culture, men just didn’t talk about their feelings.”
Do you have an experience of fatherhood to share? Contact me if you would be interviewed for the book.